Very sensitive people respond in two possible ways to subtle or not so subtle emotional deprivation. They either lash out on others with unconscious anger and frustration or are fearful to please others rather than themselves. This response can again be obvious or concealed.
Maren shared a heart-wrenching story of a left-handed lady’s childhood experience. Her story explains how the essence of a deep-seated despair develops when one is not accepted, acknowledged or supported for a quality; in this case it is left-handedness. It turns her true self and her potential into an excruciating anxiety that falters life. Her confidence is shattered and she is unable to manifest and develop or share her talents with the world. The emotional anguish continues as she perceives the same theme of subtle emotional abuse continues in her adult life as in her childhood, but in unexpected ways. The circumstances are different but the theme is the same.
It is soul-destroying for a left-handed child to experience such brutal force into right-handedness. Her spirit is suppressed. Even today as an adult in different circumstances she still feels that there is something wrong with her and that she will always fail, no matter how hard she tries. She is functional without the anxiety but the moment her mentor’s forceful attitude about doing things a specific way triggers her anxiety, she freezes. Then she doubts herself. The child part in her still perceives others as holding power over her. In her mind, others decide if she is good enough or not, because of the original relentless emotional treatment she experienced.
The emotional pain she suffers indicates where to start with the healing process. Remember the pain or the symptom leads us to, and is the indicator for what needs to be healed. Every time she feels this anxiety in her body and then the self-doubt in her mind, she can tell herself that she loves and accept herself anyway, no matter what happens between her and others or how they force her to be not who she is. She takes charge of nurturing herself with self-talk and self-care. She tells herself that even though her manager pushes her to know and do, and even though she feels anxious about knowing and doing, she takes a deep breath and allows herself to know and do in her own time and her own way. She supports herself to do this like she would a child of her own.
Practice this unconditional self-nurturing and see how it helps to change the brain pathways to respond in new ways to life.
Thank you for sharing a touching story, Maren.
Please feel free to share you stories and ideas about this subject too.