“The Outsider turned Champion evolves from the Fathering Archetype.

The Outsider is a person who feels that they do not belong anywhere. They feel alienated or different to their family of origin or culture and do not quite fit with the philosophical environment of their time. They do not identify with their families of origin, cultures of birth or the cultural of political ideology. Something makes them stand apart which has the effect of leaving them emotionally orphaned.

Such a person often finds themselves in a quandary of having to carve out a unique niche for themselves either professionally, culturally or emotionally. They might have to live in unusual circumstances or entirely new communities or environments that could even be frowned upon by conventional society. The emotional dilemma of longing to belong somewhere, forever lingers in their awareness to no avail, because they feel inherently different and therefore have a challenge with convention in some way. Think of the young man or woman who has a different physical, sexual, religious or philosophical orientation to the majority of their peers and become ostracized. I have seen many such brave people in my counseling practice; the lesbian couple who start a family through donor conception; the single career-mother who braves the corporate world; the executive CEO husband who leaves his family and career to pursue his dream of being a sailing musician; the immigrant who start a new life in a new country away from tradition and family ties with hopes to improve their children’s future; the woman and man who leaves their culture to marry a partner of a different color, religion or language.

It is easy to recognize people with the life-theme of felling like outsiders. They are usually the ones ostracized and bullied by others. They can become silent and withdrawn and hide their creative potential to avoid being ridiculed. From an early age they became intimately familiar with the internal impression that they stand apart from convention. They notice that their ideas differ from the people closest to them as well as to the ideas of their social milieu. Consequently their sense of differentness increases their need to isolate themselves for feeling misunderstood. This kind of emotional experience can be interpreted as failure or incapacity of some kind, which stirs a stronger drive to try harder to fit and belong somewhere. Even so, the emotional experience of not belonging stays with them. People who are true outsiders usually find like-minded people in some narrow aspects of their complex lives and sometimes, if they are very lucky indeed, they meet at least one other outsider whom they can fully relate to.

Outsiders usually reinvent themselves a couple of times over the span of their lifetime. Change and having to adapt to unexpected circumstances, especially the transformation that comes from loss, is an accustomed event for Outsiders. Loss of people, identities, status, jobs, places and countries are commonplace. It is this experience of loss that activates an internal drive to build new physical, emotional and mental spaces.

Every person is born with a life purpose that involves accomplishing a psychological-spiritual task that grows their understanding and evolution beyond the challenges initially posed by circumstances. The life purpose of the Outsider is an archetypal evolutionary process of constructing and restoring oneself after defeat to find their divine purpose of Championing life instead of suffering misery.

A life of constant loss in fulfillment, feeds a need to be emotionally gratified in an imaginary place where one finally have a sense of belonging, whatever that might mean to the individual. The need to belong and the concentrated awareness of not belonging, instills ability for great compassion for others and an ability to lead and take responsibility for change. Before they discover their strength, the outsider depends on others to lead them. Outsiders unconsciously hope to be cared for by compassionate people whom they themselves have the potential to be. They are low in confidence and an internal sense of personal power. They give others authority over them. They feel helplessness, dependence and depressed. The pain of these feelings leads eventually to a choice to claim personal authority and build reliable and supportive personal and organizational systems, or give in to the mournful and depressed emotional pain.

Owning their own strengths turn the outsider into trustworthy leaders; the rocks of society. The damsel in distress longs for a hero to save her but realize that she is the hero herself. The symptoms of helplessness, dependence and depression are usually an indicator to us to reclaim our rightful place on earth. Claiming our position means that we own our power and expertise. The hurt or discomfort of our symptoms urges us to develop the abilities opposite to the symptoms so that we become free of conflict-cycles in our personality.

There is a wonderful synergy between the hardship of the symptoms our ego suffers and the direction the Divine side of the archetype prompts us to find. In reality, all human struggles direct us in the direction of Divine resolution and growth. Defeat, pain and loss experiences contribute to our human awareness of the need for us to connect to the Divine significance of these experiences. While our personality experience this Archetype as painful hardships, the Divine essence of this Archetype opens us to great compassion, championship of others and true leadership. The Archetype takes us through the human experience perceived from our personality perspective to connect with the divine meaning of those experiences, in order to heal and evolve. The Archetypes allows our personalities to experience life that ultimately connects us with our true nature as divine humans. We unstuck from our fears and pain when our personality operates with divine inspiration and perspective.” © Jayni Bloch 2014

The outsider phenomenon is in synonymous with the Champion archetype I describe in my book The Riddle in the Mirror (Balboa 2012) and my workshops describe this archetypal process as the function of the Fathering principle.

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